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KEY FACTORS THAT AFFECTS RIGHT UPBRINGING


Every young person exhibits different
 lifestyles, behavior and beliefs (either religious or non-religious). This is because everyone is raised with different pattern of training and upbringing. Therefore, parents should understand what and how children's upbringing can be affected while raising them in other to produce right-minded and positive young lads and ladies. 
Understand that the family is the first institution where individuals are comformed and made. It is where character and lifestyles are built and the parents are solely responsible for building them.  The decisions and patterns in which the parents apply determines the outcome of the growing child of the family and how he will turn out to be or live his life.  

Therefore, it is necessary for parents/caregivers/guardians and anyone with the responsibility of child raising to learn the right and acceptable modes of training and carefully apply them. 

There are certain factors that affects right upbringing. I discover that many parents/guardians pay little or no attention to these factors and this result to poor and bad upbringing amongst young, growing people. 
Here are four basic factors; 

• PERSONAL UPBRINGING: Many parents apply the same mode of parenting and training used on them on their own children. And in some cases, those patterns are wrong and unacceptable. These category of parents fall prey to repeating the mistakes their parents made in raising them. Therefore, It is important they seek the acceptable way and apply them in other to raise their children rightly. God's word holds the right modes. 

• BELIEFS AND CONVICTIONS:  These beliefs and convictions can be religious and non–religious. Nevertheless,they should both be authentic and right before God. Parents are the first to teach the right beliefs, values and principles to their children which will guide them all their lives. If those beliefs are wrong, the child will also grow wrongly too. 
Teach them biblical principles and the way of God,in this way, their future and destiny is secured. 

• MARITAL STATUS: Divorced, complicated or disastrous marriage can affect the offspring(s) of the couple as the child grows. This factor does lots of damages on the child. This includes, pyschological and emotional harm. So every married couple should see to building a healthy and loving home as not to put the children in emotional and psychological jeopardy. 

• DIRECT ENVIRONMENT: When we talk of the direct environment, we talk about the places the child spends greater amount of time of his life living. Places like the living environment which is the home and the educational environment – the school. Both have effects on children, so it is necessary parents scrutinize things like this before making a decision. Learn about the environment, make sure the people living or schooling there will not distort your child's mind or character, ensure that the condition of the environment is okay to raise your child the desirable way because the environment also contributes in building a child. 

All these factors outlined should not be taken lightly. Therefore, ruminate on them and ensure you are on the right track as a parent. For prospective parents, let this be a guide for you to raise wonderful children in the future that will grow to be good and excellent in all endeavors. 
God bless you. 

Shalom! 

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