THE EFFECTS OF MARITAL CONFLICT ON CHILDREN

Many married couples suffer so many ordeals (conflicts and crisis) in their marriage and the children are often than not, victims of those circumstances. These category of parents are either ignorant of the danger and harm their marital conflict may cause their children or they do not care about the negative effects that may play out in their children's lives while in constant marital disagreements and conflicts with their spouse.

Children that witness parents arguing, exchanging slaps and blows, cursing and bittered at each other, and doing all manner of cruel things at each other are not stable and highly affected negatively. So as parents, it is paramount you understand the certain effects of marital disturbance on your children.

Here are some of the effects of marital conflicts on children;

• Vulnerability to physical and vocal aggression; they easily become angered and bittered, therefore prone to violence.

• Anxiety,fear and depression are also evident as emotional problems.

How does this affect them?

• It hinders the development of their cognitive ability, that is, their mental and intellectual ability which weakens their academic performance.

• It causes social incompetency–being unable to socialize as they should.

• It introduces fear of separation between parents in the child and fear of abandonment from one of their parent when separated.

Effects as teenagers

As they keep witnessing conflicts in their teenage stage,

• They go astray and grow wild and violent. • They seek for attention from others especially their peers. The environment has become too inconducive for them, so they go outside to seek for what they can not get from the home, and in their quest to seek attention, love from others and to feel good, they damble into wrong activities such as keeping sexual relationships, intake of drugs and alcohol, cultism and other social vices. This is how they adopt unhealthy lifestyles.

Effects as young adults

As they mature into young adults with those pictures of conflicts in their minds;

• It then registers wrong ideas and misconceptions about marriage and how to treat people. So, the males will find it okay to disrespect and beat up women and the females will disrespect and curse at men.

• It also inputs fear of marriage failure in them; leaving them with the belief that their future marriages might not work.

The effects of marital conflict are humongous and causes such harm on growing children. It subtly ensnares children into destructive lifestyles and leaves them with wrong mindset which they may grow with and live to regret their whole lives. Therefore, it is necessary for parents to intentionally create a peaceful and loving home, especially for their children's sake. Every human being desires a happy and peaceful life and children are the first.

If the problem have being created already, call your child/children to order and destroy whatsoever that has been done. If you happen to have disagreements in your marriage, settle it with your spouse; your child/children is not your marriage counsellor. Never involve them for their own well-being. Amend your relationship with your spouse and build a loving, peaceful home so your child can grow in the same manner.

God bless you.

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shalom!

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