GROWING RIGHT

1 chronicles 4:9 And Jabez was more honorable than his brethren, and his mother called his name Jabez, saying, "Because I bare him in sorrow". It is my innate desire that children grows aright according to what God has predestined for them to walk in as to fulfill their purposes on earth and bring glory to the Father; their creator.  Therefore, one factor should not be neglected for this to take place and that is the names children bear; names given to them by their parents. 1 chronicles 4:9, talks of a young man with a great destiny; destined for greatness. He was more honorable than his brothers yet his life wasn't really producing sound results because of his name; Jabez.  Meaning "I bare him in sorrow" The name given to him by his mother kept speaking against him. It hindered him from prospering in all things as he should. It somehow affected his destiny.  Without a doubt, this is considered true because I find this as the experience of people ev...

I had a strong urge to share what I am about sharing on this platform after giving it a long thought. I want to sound a very serious warning to every parent reading this article.  I read an e-book titled "Technical virgin", which taught me a whole lot of things.  This book is backed with powerful lessons for all people; for young people, for parents, and christains as well.  However, a particular story amongst the others in this book caught my attention. It is about an eleven years old girl; a child of a pastor, who was molested even without understanding what happened to her. She and her younger siblings were entrusted to a brother in church by her parents before traveling for a church conference. Unfortunately, this young girl was exposed to the sexual life and activities by this man and he slept with her.  She grew wild with so much urge for more experience. That one sexual encounter opened her up to living a continuous immoral life which almost destro...

Undoubtedly, everyone possesses an identity and has a place of origin, same with any man born again. A man born again (born of the spirit–John 3:5) belongs to the kingdom of God;such person has recieved the right and access to God's kingdom therefore possessing an identity as heavenly citizens and becomes representatives of the kingdom of God here on earth.  However, as God's children and citizens of the kingdom, there are set standards we must keep and observe to be truly identified as God's own. These standards are God's standards which are found in His word; they are the patterns and modes of living and it should be well incorporated in our lives and be seen by all even as we live amongst the people of this world.   But there is a mistake many of God's children make and I have seen this mostly amongst young Christians: they compromise the standard. These category of christains try to adjust their lifestyles (godly lifestyles) for several reasons round...

There are lots of young people living today that are totally messed up with depraved minds and destructive lifestyles. These kind of young individuals grow becoming a nuisance to their various families, organizations– either social or non-social such as the church, school etc and the society at large.  Every thing in life has an origination, a root, a foundation; nothing comes up or exist without a source. In the same vein, personality, character traits and lifestyle of every young individual forms from the pattern or style in which he/she was brought up or trained. However,parents which are solely responsible for raising children are accountable for how their children turns out to be.  Let us look at an illustration from the Bible; Eli and his sons as case study in 1Samuel Chapter 1,2,3.  Eli was the priest over the tabernacle of the Lord (1Samuel 1:9). Like their father, hophni and phinehas were also priest in the tabernacle (1Samuel 1:3) but they were corru...

Many married couples suffer so many ordeals (conflicts and crisis) in their marriage and the children are often than not, victims of those circumstances. These category of parents are either ignorant of the danger and harm their marital conflict may cause their children or they do not care about the negative effects that may play out in their children's lives while in constant marital disagreements and conflicts with their spouse.  Children that witness parents arguing, exchanging slaps and blows, cursing and bittered at each other, and doing all manner of cruel things at each other are not stable and highly affected negatively. So as parents, it is paramount you understand the certain effects of marital disturbance on your children.  Here are some of the effects of marital conflicts on children;  • Vulnerability to physical and vocal aggression; they easily become angered and bittered, therefore prone to violence. • Anxiety,fear and depression are also eviden...

Every young person exhibits different  lifestyles, behavior and beliefs (either religious or non-religious). This is because everyone is raised with different pattern of training and upbringing. Therefore, parents should understand what and how children's upbringing can be affected while raising them in other to produce right-minded and positive young lads and ladies.  Understand that the family is the first institution where individuals are comformed and made. It is where character and lifestyles are built and the parents are solely responsible for building them.  The decisions and patterns in which the parents apply determines the outcome of the growing child of the family and how he will turn out to be or live his life.   Therefore, it is necessary for parents/caregivers/guardians and anyone with the responsibility of child raising to learn the right and acceptable modes of training and carefully apply them.  There are certain factors that affect...